[naturegirl321]

while they studied? My husband is thinking about going back to school full-time. Anyone have experience with this? Any advice?

[Just a thought...]

I'm a husband who is going to school full-time, but my wife does not support me...I continue to work while going to school (though I would certainly let my wife support me if feasible!!). For what type of degree is he going to school? He's Peruvian, right? Is it possible for him to go to an on-line university based in the states? Let me know his situation and I'll share what I can based on my situation...

[naturegirl321]

He's Peruvian, the US ones are so expensive, so that 's why we're looking into him studying here. Besides, his English isn't the best.

[akb]

I'm supporting my wife while she studies and I'd be happy to help with any aspect of my experience, but what sort of advice are you looking for? About educational programs, economizing with only one income, etc?

[naturegirl321]

Economizing. Also if you know of any good unis for sistemas engineering.

[Alejandro]

Systems Eng or Computer Science? although in most cases both are referred to as Systems Eng, there is a huge difference. You can do SE with paper and pencil and computers are mere tools, on the other hand CS deals with computers (software,hardware,etc). If your husband is interested on SE I would suggest UNI which, is public and almost free if you are a good student ( I got my degree in 11 semesters and costed me only $10). If he is interested on CS then his choices are Catolica and U of Lima, there are some new Us offering CS but I havent had the chance to evaluate any of their graduates. Good luck

[naturegirl321]

Systems Engineering. He's looking at USIL. He wants to stay away from public unis because the last one he attended decided to go on strike. For a year.

[akb]

I don't have Alejandro's first hand experience, but I've heard great things about the UNI also. As far as economizing goes, some general advice would be to: 1. keep fixed monthly costs low. Consider moving to a smaller apartment, taking into account transport costs, maintenance, arbitrios, etc. Look at the total cost of living in a place. 2. Cable, internet, any "US" priced utilities and services should be among the first things on the chopping block. 3. Do budget for some fun. If you make a spartan budget, you're more likely to rip it up and abandon the concept. 4. Love Tuesdays. 2x1 pizza (Pizza hat, d'nnos, all of them) and cheap movies (UVK). 5. If possible, live the budget before hand. See where you deviate and make adjustments now. Good luck.

[kelly_c]

I mostly supported our family while my husband got went to school and started building his dry wall business. We're usually at about $800/month, and that includes rent, private school for 2 kids, telephone, transportation, internet (and food and care for a dog, a hamster and 2 turtles!) - For a family of 4, we average about S/.30 a day for food, and I'm quite sure we could do it for less if we had to.

[Solangel]

while they studied? My husband is thinking about going back to school full-time. Anyone have experience with this? Any advice?

Hello naturegirl, I am Peruvian , now studying in UK. I did my first degree at UNI and paid almost nothing (just S/ 50.00 every six months for my health insurance). The education is very good but very hard as well. I have friends studying Systems Engineering and it is a top program in Lima, it is very demanding and the admission process is the most difficult of the country!. During my studies we didnt have any strike at all. However your husband will need to be a methodic and full time dedicated student, otherwise he will have a bad time.

[David]

A friend of mine came into a situation recently that is prompting this response.

If you are absolutely sure you are in a committed relationship then it would be OK. Many times though 1 spouse/boyfriend or girlfriend will have an ulterior motive behind having their partner work while they complete their education.

If you are not 100% sure that things in the relationship are solid I'd say no to the idea.

[afz]

Most (all?) of the national universities are currently on strike, have been for a few months. UNI and USIL both have good reputations generally; no idea about USIL's engineering programs.

[08087]

David, on 30 October 2009 - 01:19 PM, said:

A friend of mine came into a situation recently that is prompting this response.

If you are absolutely sure you are in a committed relationship then it would be OK. Many times though 1 spouse/boyfriend or girlfriend will have an ulterior motive behind having their partner work while they complete their education.

If you are not 100% sure that things in the relationship are solid I'd say no to the idea.

When marrying out of ones social status you have to be extra careful. As the saying goes," When you got nothin, you got nothin ta lose!"

[Quantum]

08087, on 30 October 2009 - 06:27 PM, said:

As the saying goes," When you got nothin, you got nothin ta lose!"

When you ain't got nothing, you got nothing to loose - Bob Dylan "Like a Rolling Stone". Excellent song.

[naturegirl321]

afz, on 30 October 2009 - 05:29 PM, said:

Most (all?) of the national universities are currently on strike, have been for a few months. UNI and USIL both have good reputations generally; no idea about USIL's engineering programs.

Yeah, shocker about the strike. My husband's was on strike for a YEAR, a year, before he said enough is enough. USIL has a special programme, but it takes three years. It's one for those who already have work experience.

08087, on 30 October 2009 - 06:27 PM, said:

When marrying out of ones social status you have to be extra careful. As the saying goes," When you got nothin, you got nothin ta lose!"

We both had nothing when we got married. But I worked a lot and studied and now have more to lose. And actually will be studying, again, for another masters.

[Kimberley G]

I'm a little late to this conversation and my contribution may not matter since we are in the states. My hubby and I both did our undergraduate degrees going to school full time and working full time and raising 2 kids. I don't know how we did it. Then I went back to school in the 90's for my masters. Again, I continued to work full time while going to school full time. My incentive was a thesis project in Northern Ireland. If I didn't work, I'd not have had the $ to afford the trip.

As most of you know, I'm back in school now... working full time and the hubby still working as well. We've got 2 nearly grown (physically grown just not off our payroll yet) kids who are both in college as well. I'm only taking 6 hours right now but in the doctoral program that is considered full time. And I believe that -- because the reading, writing and research I'm having to do is heavy lifting type of work.

Will it be worth it? I don't know but I hope so. If the world doesn't end in 2012 then I'll be starting my dissertation about that time. I figure school is like an game of endurance. Just one week at a time and one project at a time and so on.

My hubby is an awesome cook. That sure a heck helps! If we lived in a community where the men were men and the sheep were scared... oops, wrong conversation. I mean if we lived in a place where the men didn't help with domestic things, then I'd not be back in school. There's no way a spouse can do it without the help of the other.